So what is this critical key that most men will never understand?
Actively creating and maintaining the frame that YOU are the prize.
Most guys agree to the frame that SHE is the prize without even thinking about it (especially if she's good-looking).
And if you're thinking, "But wait. She IS the prize...," it's not your fault. Our culture implies that she's the prize in almost every movie you watch, song you hear, and ad you see.
So it's not surprising that most guys don't know this secret or apply it when they meet a girl.
Unfortunately, that leaves us with a massive number of unattractive men who are otherwise great guys and an untold number of dissatisfied women.
She WANTS to meet a guy she can feel intense attraction for.
She's DYING to chase you.
And if you're a great guy, it's much better for her to chase you than some other guy who creates the frame that he's better than her in a NEGATIVE way.
Women don't really like "assholes."
They're just uncontrollably attracted to men who create the frame that they are a prize that she has to EARN.
Don't You Value Things You Earn More Than Things You Get For Free?
The great thing is that you can be as good of a guy as you want and still be insanely attractive to women as long as you actively create and maintain the frame that you are the prize she has to earn by implying this dynamic in everything you say and do in a way that lines up with your real personality.
When you meet a girl, no matter who she is, there is no frame that "exists" out there that says SHE is the prize and that you have to try to "get" her.
The frame is created by the two of you together.
One really easy way to tell what you should do in any situation with a girl is to ask yourself:
"If I really am the prize she's trying to earn, what would I say right now? What would I do right now?"
Those two questions alone can skyrocket your success with women if you ask them enough times.
If you create the frame that YOU are the prize SHE has to earn and she goes along with it, she will chase you, escalate on you, treat you well, and have way more fun with you.
She'll be EXCITED to meet up with you again.
She will see your true value.
If you maintain this frame over time, she will fall in love with you.
She'll never think of cheating on you or leaving you.
And, most importantly, she'll respect you.
Now YOU get to decide which women get to stay in YOUR life.
Wouldn't it be nice if you could choose from a pool of high-quality women who were chasing YOU?